The Fake Orgasm Economy Is Shrinking, and the Reason Is Interesting
The performance is being retired at scale. It's not because the sex got better.
Love
Desire, pleasure, partnership, and the intelligence of intimacy.
Scheduled Sex Outperforms Spontaneous Sex, and Researchers Have Known for Years
The case for Thursday, in under three minutes.
Everyone in Your Group Chat Is Lying About Sex
In 2003, two researchers wired college students to a fake lie detector and asked about their sex lives. What happened next explains every brunch you've ever attended.
Hot vs. Good
Technically impressive sex and sex that actually wrecks you are not the same thing, and they are very often not even the same person. The tell is brutally simple, and once you have it you cannot give it back: are they performing for you, or paying attention to you?
The Sex Toy Drawer at Forty
The most embarrassing object in the house has become a design object, a museum piece, and a fifteen-thousand-dollar flex. This is the reported story of female pleasure, the women who built an industry on it, and what the grown woman keeps in her nightstand now.
The Wedding Night That Is Not the First Time
The order arrives between one-fifteen and two in the morning: a club sandwich, fries, two waters, and the painkillers from the minibar. The champagne the property sent up at the planner's request is returned with the breakfast tray, unopened. The rose petals are swept off the bed in a single motion.
Why the Sex Got Better After Forty, and Nobody Warned You it Would
Women in their forties are having less sex, and enjoying it considerably more. Nobody is leading with this. We are.
Where the Sex Goes In a Long-Term Marriage
You learned to be somewhere else in your head for twelve minutes and then go wash your face. The sex did not stop. The wanting did not stop. What stopped was wanting him.
The Competent Woman Has Terrible Sex
She built, with extraordinary competence, a brain that cannot stop watching itself long enough to want. The neuroscience is unambiguous. The monitoring systems that make her exceptional at everything else are working against her in bed.
A couples therapist would call it maintenance sex, and that is not the honest name for it
There is no cultural permission to exist for the marriage that functions beautifully and feels slightly wrong. Call it the load-bearing marriage.
